I am 17 years old and pregnant
I am 17 years old and I got pregnant. I'm scared. I don't know how to tell my parents, I don't know what to do. Have any of you ever become pregnant so early? This is completely not what I planned. I didn't want to get pregnant so early. I'm not ready for the baby yet.
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When I was a teenager my friend was pregnant. And she broke down, told her parents and they accepted it and even helped her. So don't be afraid, everything will be fine, you just have to be calm about it.
Talk to your boyfriend about it and make him help you find a gynecologist who will prescribe medication to terminate the pregnancy. Maybe he should cover some of the costs, otherwise he will have to pay alimony. If you don't want a baby then you're not ready for it. Alternatively, try to find a suitable doctor yourself who will help you terminate the pregnancy. And if it can't be that way, tell your parents. Calmly and without any problems, pregnancy can be terminated in the Czech Republic. There is much better medical care here than in Poland. I know what I am talking about, because I live here and I am amused by all these comments "Because they are the best doctors in Poland" - laughter in the room. Here in the Czech Republic, even during Covid, you can get to a specialist within two weeks and not have a problem with it: neurologist, cardiologist, orthopedist, gynecologist, etc. And it's not private. On the other hand, doctors from the Czech Republic are surprised when I say that you wait in Poland after six months.
In general, I'd say you should tell your parents, but I'm well aware that not all parents are okay. Some are even mean. I don't know what your relationship is with them, but if you are so afraid to tell them about it, then you probably fear what they might say. So try to make an appointment with the gynecologist as soon as possible, but also tell the boy about it. He is “complicit” with what happened, so if he doesn't want to care for the baby or ready to do so, let him help you by throwing yourself into abortion medications, or at least cover some of the cost of seeing a doctor. Time is of the essence, you don't need to be willing to care for or have children at such a young age. Remember, it's up to you to decide your body, not the parents, not the boyfriend, not the government.
I know 3 cases of young pregnancies, one was in my family. My cousin got pregnant at the age of 16 and they had their mother removed in the Czech Republic. It was quite a few years ago (about 10). Now she is out of college and has a second child on her way, she found a nice partner in college and fortunately she did not get involved with the guy with whom she got pregnant (now she is in prison, for the second time).
At the moment, we have a huge backwardness in such matters in Poland. For example, in Finland, a woman can go and have an abortion without giving any reason. Of course, this is a very serious decision and a woman (girl) has the support of a psychologist in such a situation to make the right decision.
Sometimes it's worth keeping a child, sometimes it's worth removing.
In the 17st century, in a developed society, when you decide to give birth to a child at XNUMX, you must give all your youth to that child. The best of my years. Think if you want it. And you are at the mercy of third parties - if you like independence, it will be very hard for you, because you will still be dependent on someone.
I gave birth to my son at the age of 17. At the beginning it was very difficult for us, but then the boy (now my husband) found a better job and somehow it was going.
Do I regret having given birth? Not. I had moments of breakdown, doubts, like every human being, but in the long run I am happy.
I just regret that we could not afford a second child, so that the son would have siblings. It is true that it is never too late, but my husband does not want another child anymore, he says that we are too old. Maybe that's true, I'm 38 years old, my husband is 40. I mean. the idea came up when I was 36 and he was 38, but we talked about it many times and we didn't make up our minds.
I have a bit of trouble with my son and we are concerned that he was raised as an only child and had little contact with other children.
I can write what it looks like from the US perspective.
There are some things to consider if you are 17 and pregnant. The first is your legal rights and obligations. In most states, you are considered a minor under the age of 18, which means you may need parental or guardian consent for an abortion or childbirth. You may also not be able to sign the legal contract yourself.
It is also important to consider your financial situation. If you are still in high school, you may not have enough income to support yourself and your child. You may also qualify for government relief programs such as Medicaid and food stamps.
You should also consider your relationships. Are you in a stable, committed relationship with your child's father? Do you have the support of family and friends?
Having a baby is a big responsibility so it's important to make sure you're ready before making any decisions.
You can put a child up for adoption, you can give birth, or you can remove.
There are many resources available to help you make the right decision for you. If you are not ready to be a parent, there are organizations that can help you get your baby up for adoption. If you are considering an abortion, there are clinics that can provide information and support. If you are ready to be a parent, there are many programs available to help with the costs of raising your child.
